Statistics say if you have a little boy who is 10 years old he’s probably already seen a photo of a naked woman. My little boy is barely 6 months old and I am frantically educating myself on preventing the exposure of pornography to his little eyes before it’s too late.
I’d like to draw an illustration with a few facts that I came across in my research so that you understand what children are watching these days.
93% of boys under the age of 18 have seen pornography. Pornography viewing drives the demand for sex trafficking. The protagonists in pornographic films are often times victims of human trafficking and are performing against their will, and many are under-aged.
In order to keep things PG I will leave the rest to your impeccable logic.
Most parents are over-protective when it comes to the risk of kidnapping and our children becoming victims of human trafficking, but if at 10 years old children are part of the terrifying trafficking demand, it’s time we shifted the focus of our protectiveness. As mothers, we don’t want our children to become either the supply or demand for this abusive industry.
Did you know that only 23% of parents have rules about what their kids can do on the computer? Can you imagine what the porn culture would look like in 10 or 15 years if we could change this one statistic? 10 or 20 years ago, it was pure ignorance that allowed the insanely rapid growth of the porn industry.
Now we know better.
…and what’s more, we have an infinite number of tools at hand to prevent our children from becoming part of the viewing demand and to teach them about sex and pornography before anyone else has a chance.
Is it dad’s job to talk to the boys about this?
The real Proverbs 31 woman is the writer: a mom, talking to her son. A mom who knew all too well the downfall of a man. We moms all know she’s out there. No clothes on. Too much lipstick. This super mom gave her son some sound advice flavored with a bit a hyperbole:
“Do not give your strength to women, nor your ways to that which destroys kings.”
That which destroys homes. Pornography. We have the power to take our culture back, to champion purity again, and give the gift of self-control to our children, which will give them life.
I talked to my husband about his experiences as a young stallion. He’s an only child with no father. And I asked him how he feels about pornography now that he has a son.
Here’s his response. “I don’t want that for him at all. I want him to grow up in a totally different atmosphere than I did. I wouldn’t even say a Christian one, I supposedly grew up in a Christian home.
My first experience was when I was 14 or so. My uncle had left a video tape in the VCR. It disgusted me at first, but something happens in a man in spite of the initial disgust that creates a powerful curiosity. One time is all it takes.”
Happily, my husband found freedom from pornography. He wants his children to have the same freedom: what is his secret?
“A relationship with Christ. That’s what I want to cultivate in my boy.
I also plan to have a deep, close relationship with him so that he would have the confidence to talk to me. Truthfully, because of our [Mexican] culture, I didn’t get very good advice from my mother. The attitude here is ‘Boys will be boys.'”
What about my girls?
Don’t think your home free with your little princess. Over 60% of girls under 18 are also exposed and becoming addicted.
When I asked my husband what he would say to our son of 10 years old about pornography, there he got stuck. I admit, so did I. Anything beyond “good touch, bad touch” and I was out of my league.
So I did what I always do when I get stuck: I research. Interestingly, a site called StrongDisciple.com turned out to be a gold mine of resources!
We can take our children’s innocence back! They can live like our grandparents did. Minus walking 2 miles to school in 3 feet of snow, uphill both ways… but I digress.
Start today. Block those sites, put the filters on, parent-control the bajeezes out of all the electronics in the house. Cell phones included. I’ve included excellent resources from StrongDisciple.com. Click on the image below to find out more.
The 30 Days series is age-appropriate: The books are for ages 3-7, then 8-11 and then 12 and above.
So what’s the lesson for today? Children need to be supervised. Their lives are at stake, and the lives of countless sex trafficking victims forced into the sex industry to boot. Our responsibility as parents is to put road blocks wherever we can, and TALK incessantly until they are tired of hearing us talk about it. I promise you, they may roll their eyes or get embarrassed today, but tomorrow they will avert their eyes at the right moment because of our diligence.